Monday, July 7, 2008

Rejecting Mediocrity - Dorna Carrington-Scott

Rejecting Mediocrity & Accepting Excellence: One Woman’s Personal Challenge to Walk in Greatness

By Dorna Carrington-Scott

Will Smith (recently) said, "I am drawn to intellect. Some people are drawn to guns, women, money. I want to be around people who are smarter than me."

Will also said, "Confucius said you are who you associate with. Look at the 5 people you spend most of your time with. That is YOU. Do you want to be that? If not, replace them." Likewise, Dr. Wayne Dyer said, "If you find someone whose soul is not aligned with yours, send them love and move along."

Do the people in your life reflect your values? Does your (in)significant other share your basic beliefs and principles? Do your female and male friends share similar goals and outlooks on life? Would you want these people to raise your son or daughter if you were not around?

I have made many mistakes in my life, and even though I am armed with better than average intellect and have access to many resources, I tend to waste my time on menial and mediocre things. I train people to be excellent. I expect excellence from my son. But I accept mediocrity in my own life. I spend time worrying about what someone is doing or has done behind my back, when in actuality, it doesn't matter because we do not share similar values. I would not want this person to raise my son. I would not want my daughter (if I had one) or cousins or aunts or sisters or friends to be raised by or to be romantically involved with this person. So why accept it for myself?

Why do we accept mediocrity in our lives? I consider each one of you to be the absolute closest people in my lives and I am proud to call you my friend, my family. And I thank you for pulling me up on my "crap" on more than one occasion. And I have a responsibility to hold myself accountable for my excellence.

Pastor Dianne Canegata said "You are Exquisite." Why should we accept anything less? We surround ourselves with people who are unequally yoked because we feel we have a void to fill in our lives. How can I possibly feel a void when I have people like you surrounding me? How can I possibly feel like I have to prove that I am just "dorna" when everyone who matters thinks I am "DORNA!" “We can create excellent enterprises within ourselves, which will, in turn, create excellent exterior enterprises”.

What will it take for you to be excellent? I train my students to create a culture of excellence at work and at home, but what about a culture of excellence inside "YOU"? What is holding you back from your excellence? Is it fear? Is it money? Is it a feeling of low self worth? How can you feel worthless when you have a wonderful group of supportive people around you?

I know I have cheerleaders. I got a rejection letter from the University of Georgia’s Graduate School, and Connie said, "Don't they know who you are! You're Dorna!" I got cheated on, abused, lied to, and some of you said, "Don't YOU know who you are; you're Dorna!" I am me because of people like you and I am ready to create my excellence. Anybody coming?

We can create excellent enterprises within ourselves, which will, in turn, create excellent exterior enterprises. Surround yourself with people who hold the same things important, whether it be financial prosperity, intellectual prosperity, and/or spiritual prosperity.

So many different people say the same things over and over, and we read books, look at TV programs, go to church and internalize all of these things. But we don't act on them. We all know what we have to do. I've known, but stayed in paralysis for many reasons. Those reasons are excuses. There is no reason we can't have what we want. You have me, and the other four people around you.

I tell the participants in my classes, "Ignorance is bliss. Now that you know, you have a responsibility to act." I want to act. I need your help, your love, and your support. Likewise, I want you to act, and know that you have my love and my support.

There is excellence within us all. Will Smith amazed me last night. And he has partners with whom he is equally yoked. That is the key.

Think of this as a pyramid scheme. I bring you in, you bring someone else in. If we spread the concept of excellence and reinforce to people that they have our unconditional love and support, what can stop them?


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1 comment:

Brother OMi said...

in 2008, ignorance is not bliss, it is a crime...

we accept mediocrity because we are afraid of our potential. as human beings we seek a false sense of security. thus we tie ourselves to things that give us that false sense of security. part of that is feeling wanted and love. we would rather be in mediocre relationships instead of pursuing challenging ones that force us to change.

in this life only two things are guaranteed: change and our transition. those are the things we are most afraid of.